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A Must Try!! – Steps for Practicing Self-Love

Everyday-Self-Love-ImageIn today’s society, many woman and girls are influenced by the images they see on television that give a false sense of what a woman should look like and how a woman should act. These images show mainly women who are very thin and have had some type of cosmetic surgery to enhance their appearance. They also show a women who is not fully clothed showing off her body in order to get what she wants. This sends the wrong message and for young girls and some adults, this can leave them feeling a sense of inadequacy. Unfortunately, many teens watch the television shows and think that they are supposed to look like the women portrayed on the shows. The teen do not realized that the women are made up with numerous tricks of the trade put into place to give a false sense of reality. This leads the teen down a road that leads to low self esteem and the teenager grows into adulthood feeling inadequate and less than.

According to lzbearfacts.com low self-esteem is a mental disorder in which an individual views himself or herself as inadequate, unworthy, unloved, and/or incompetent. Once formed, this negative self image permeates every thought, producing faulty assumption and ongoing self-defeating behavior. Low self-esteem issues are common in young people, especially in high school. Seven out of ten girls believe that they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members, according to dosomething.org.

Low self-esteem is the underlying cause of much of the depression people suffer. They feel that there are things they can’t do well, especially as it concerns social skills, being successful, initiating and maintaining relationships, or having the courage to try new things. As a result they often feel hopeless about their situation and about the future. Because those with low self-esteem feel so inadequate, they automatically think that others see them in the same way and that others are laughing at them, will likely reject them, do not respect them, and will take advantage of them. Consequently they tend to watch for signs this is happening and then tend to by overly sensitive and are easily offended. Feeling inadequate, as thought they don’t fit in, and then constantly fearful of repercussions, low self esteem sufferers watch others in an effort to figure out what to do and say, what to wear-what seems to work. But, as situations change, behaviors also change leaving these individuals confused about what they should do or say, adding to their anxiety and fear of rejection and so their social and relationship skills do not improve leading to many boundary issues.

Practicing Self Love:

What is self love anyway?
self-love
noun
noun: self-love
1. Regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).

2. Self love has often been seen as a moral flaw, akin to vanity and selfishness.[1] In 1956, however, psychologist and social philosopher Erich Fromm proposed that loving oneself is different from being arrogant, conceited, or egocentric, meaning instead caring about oneself and taking responsibility for oneself.

Practicing self-love is really easy and it is very important that you do it because self-love is important to living well. It influences your life choices; who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work, and how you cope with the problems in your life. I want to share a few steps with you to get you on track to start practicing self-love

Steps for Starting the Self-Love Process:

Before you begin your process for practicing self-love, there is one exercise I recommend
you do in order to be in the correct mindset for practicing self-love:
• Stand in front of a mirror
• Look at yourself. I mean really look at yourself.
• Observe your face. Then move to your shoulders and chest. Then move to your abdomen. Complete this until you get to your feet.
What were the negative things you thought about yourself while you were examining your body?
What were the positive things you thought about yourself while you were examining your body?
Now, let’s change those negatives to positives. Review your negatives again and rewrite them by turning them into a positive statement.

When you practice thinking only positive things about yourself, you will notice how much more
confident you feel. When you feel good about yourself and who you are, nobody can tarnish that feeling, if you don’t allow it. Do yourself a huge favor and stop being hard on yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror everyday and love what you see.

Share your results with us!

In the next blog, I will provide you with daily affirmations to practice each day. Stay tuned….

Self-Editing is Your Friend, Not Your Foe

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“The secret to editing your work is simple: you need to become its reader instead of its writer.” – Zadie Smith

 

So you’ve written your book, and while you don’t want to brag that it’s likely the greatest piece of literature ever written, you also know that deep inside it is! There’s only one problem though, you’ve yet to get your beautiful creation edited, and you are terrified of doing so.

correcting-1351629_960_720Understandable of course, no one wants to have their life’s work picked apart, but editing is an absolute necessity if you ever want to get your masterpiece into the hands of a publisher. When it comes to editing you have two options.

  1. Hire an editor to dissect your book and give you notes
  2. Trust in yourself and get cracking on your own revisions

While many won’t choose the latter, sometimes self-editing can actually be the best editing of all. Yes, it makes sense to have another pair of eyes look over your manuscript, but at the end of the day, you are the writer, and you know your work better than anyone else. Taking the time to edit your own manuscript allows you to grow in your knowledge of grammar, and over all better your writing. You will begin to recognize simple mistakes, and get a grasp on how to fix them on your own. You also will be able to recognize specific crutches, for example; words, phrases, sentence structure and punctuation that you continually use to the point where they are overdone.

It may seem difficult at first to be critical of something you, yourself crafted, but being critical of yourself in a positive manner also gives you the opportunity to better your story in the long run. Self-editing takes discipline and awareness, on top of grammatical skills, but once a writer begins to edit their piece, they will find that few things are more rewarding!

Edit: Given that you’re reading this post, this likely means you are a writer with a story to tell and we want to help you publish, market and sell your work! That is why all of our publishing AND marketing packages are 10% off through May 15th! (If you chose to purchase the Platinum Publishing Package we’ll include 50 printed copies of your book. Imagine holding your book in your hands in a matter of months, how cool!) You’re not alone in this! We will teach and assist you in finding your target audience + selling your books to your readers. Give us a call to discuss our package options! Our staff is standing by ready to help you make your dream a reality!

“I prefer the pen. There is something elemental about the glide and flow of nib and ink on paper.” ― James Robertson

“The highest privilege of being a writer is being able to say, ‘open your mind to me and I’ll take you to another world.” ― Alexei Maxim Russell